3 Keys to Weight Loss

3 Keys to Weight Loss

Look at 3 key areas of life to lose weight.

There are three main areas I suggest clients examine and better understand to lose weight.

1.  Habits.

Are you in the habit of eating every time you pass through the kitchen?  Every time you are in a restaurant?  Every time someone has food on their desk and you pass by?  Start to pay attention to the times we are eating even though we are not hungry, and cut out some of this habit eating.

Some of my clients find breakfast is just a habit – that they aren't hungry, and that they can cut a whole meal out without even noticing. Therefore, they can reduce their total caloric intake without feeling deprived.

Until we start to pay attention to mindless habit eating (by asking more questions about why we are eating when not hungry) we won't start to break a lot of bad habits.

2.  Hormones.

The main hormone I educate my clients on is insulin.

When we have a lot of refined sugar, our blood sugar shoots up, and insulin answers the 911 call.  Our body starts to move sugar out of the blood and into our muscles and liver.  Then it starts to store the excess sugar as fat.

If you are constantly snacking on sugary food (or refined carbohydrates, which quickly break down into sugar), your insulin stays permanently high and you stay stuck in fat storage mode.

Thus by eliminating sugar and refined carbohydrates (factory foods) and by eliminating snacks between meals, your body gets a chance to shift out of fat storage mode and into fat loss mode.

3.  How your mind works.

This is where the coaching really comes into play.  Using tools like The Model, I can help clients get a better understanding of what thoughts and feelings are driving their overeating, which is leading to being overweight. 

Once we stop the mindless habit eating, take breaks between meals to allow the body to actually burn fat, and cut out emotional eating by getting to the root cause of the thoughts and feelings driving emotional eating, clients are able to lose weight without going hungry.

P.S. It's time for your to lose the weight.  You absolutely can do this once you have the right support.  Jump on a Zoom call with me and we'll get you started.  Just reach out using the information on https://lisaduke.net/contact-me

 

How the Shame Cycle Keeps Us Overweight

How the Shame Cycle Keeps Us Overweight

 Weight loss blocked?  Learn how to unblock your weight loss with the secrets of the shame cycle.

When we set a diet or exercise goal or plan, spoiler alert, we are human, and we ARE going to mess up from time to time.

 Many of us will then beat ourselves up with the belief that shaming ourselves is the right way to get us back on track.

Indeed, isn’t this what we were taught as kids?

 If we did something wrong, we got yelled at.  Perhaps we were even physically hit (if you call it spanking, that somehow makes it ok, right?). 

Punishment and shame were supposed to make us behave better in the future.  Having learned this from adults as children, consequently we do the same thing mentally to ourselves to try to correct our behavior.

 The problem is, mentally berating ourselves with negative self-talk (like “you shouldn’t have eaten that”, or “you are so lazy, why did you skip your workout”) makes us feel awful.

 For those of us who are emotional eaters, you probably are in the habit of EATING to make yourself feel better.  Obviously, this whole cycle may be running below your conscious awareness.

 

The Pattern of the Shame Cycle

 

 Here's the pattern that keeps weight loss blocked: 

First, we eat something that’s not part of our plan.  Next, we make ourselves feel terrible by criticizing ourselves.  Then we go and eat a cookie to cheer ourselves up (often without consciously realizing what we are doing). Finally ,we yell at ourselves for eating a cookie, and then we feel terrible again.

 See what’s happening here? It’s an unending loop.  The shame cycle is part of why we have such negative associations with trying to lose weight. This process feels terrible.

 

How to Break the Cycle to Clear Weight Loss Blocks

 

 Instead of getting into this shame cycle, the best thing to do is treat that one off exception to our plan as exactly what it was – a one off exception to our plan. If we want, we can take the incident to our coach.  A certified weight loss coach can help us understand what the thinking was that lead to the exception.  When we understand why we did what we did,  we can learn from the exception and make a better choice next time.

 Got off track?  Let that mistake go and just get right back on track.

 What happened at lunch today does not need to have any effect on what we do at dinner tonight.

We haven’t “ruined the whole day”.

We don’t need to wait until Monday to start over.

We just reset in this moment and go back to our plan.

Break the shame cycle and succeed.

Want to learn more about how to break the shame cycle and clear weight loss blocks?  Schedule a free initial consultation.  Contact information is available at https://lisaduke.net/contact-me

How Decisions Ahead of Time Make Us Healthy

How Decisions Ahead of Time Make Us Healthy

Coming up with a weight loss plan – deciding ahead of time  – is secret to the life we want.

 

We have two parts of our brain – the habit, or primitive brain, that wants to keep us safe but has some non-helpful ideas on how to do that, and the neocortex, the new, fancy, iPhone part of the brain that allows us access to our higher self and to the ability to make a weight loss plan for the future and to change our lives. 

If we could live from the neocortex, we’d get what we want in the fastest, most efficient way possible.

So how do we do that?

The secret is to make a decision ahead of time.

When we make a food plan at least 24 hours in advance, we are using the best part of ourselves to make a plan.

Understand that when the time comes to stick to our plan, we won’t want to do it.  But if we can stick with that plan, we start to build trust with ourself.

If past-you built a plan that was health-focused but not ridiculously strict, and if current-you can stick to the plan, then future-you will benefit from those choices.

Even though the primitive brain will cry and moan and try to get us to break our commitments to ourselves, that part of us actually CANNOT take action without the permission of our conscious mind.  We get to choose in the moment if we will stick to our plan or flake out.

Every time we stick to our weight loss plan, we build that muscle and get better at it.  And that is the secret to success.

 

 

P.S. Are you ready to learn how to use the most modern part of your brain to get what you want from life?  Let's work together.  https://lisaduke.net/contact-me

 

Become Your Own Weight Loss Scientist

Become Your Own Weight Loss Scientist

Become a weight loss scientist and learn how your brain works.

There are different areas of your brain that evolved at different times and that have different objectives. It’s just confusing because they all sound like “you” in your head.

 

Your primitive brain wants to keep you safe, but what it thinks is safe is a very small life.

Your more evolved brain is the part that wants you to uplevel your life and achieve your dreams. That’s the part of your brain that wants you to lose weight.

What we do in coaching is become a scientist of your mind. You become your own weight loss scientist, studying what works best for you and learning what has blocked you in the past from success.

We sort of metaphorically put your brain on the table and look at it and study it together.

Is what the primitive brain offering you actually true?
Is what you do habitually getting you where you want to go?

Often you accept what your brain is telling you as the truth and just how the world is, but a coach can offer you an alternate perspective and help you poke holes in what your brain is offering you and help you see how that’s derailing you.  Learn how becoming your own weight loss scientist can help you lose weight for good.

 

 Want to see for yourself how coaching works?  Contact me to learn more. https://lisaduke.net/contact-me

 

How to Achieve Your Weight Loss Goal

How to Achieve Your Weight Loss Goal

Do you know how to achieve your weight loss goal?

 

There's a straightforward process to achieving your weight loss goal.

 

So let’s discuss how to create and achieve your goal. I’ll use the example of weight loss, but this process works for anything you want in life.

1. Get clear on where you are. What is your current weight?
2. Be honest about what you think about where you are. What do you think about the fact that you weigh what you currently do?
3. Now, take a moment to reflect on that statement. How does it make you feel?
4. When you are thinking that thought and feeling that way, what are the sorts of things you do? It might be snacking between meals or in front of the TV at night, eating sweets, or other behavior that has led to your current weight.
5. And then for the result, write your current weight again.

Now, go through the same process for your goal.

1. What would you like your weight to be?
2. What would you think about yourself once you achieved that goal weight?
3. How would you feel once you hit that goal and while you were thinking that thought?
4. What sorts of things is that new version of you doing? Maybe exercising and eating for fuel instead of fun? What is she NOT doing?
5. Then write your goal weight and the bottom of your model.

Once you can see the gap between where you are and where you want to be, the trick to achieving that goal is to step into that new version of yourself now, by thinking the thoughts and feeling the feelings that future you has. Then it will be easy and natural for you to do what the future version of you does.

Would you like to go through this process with me live for free?  That's exactly what I do on my free initial session.  After, if you are interested and if I feel you are a fit for my program, we can discuss the additional paid support I offer.  To learn more, contact me.

 

 

 

One Question to Help You Lose Weight

One Question to Help You Lose Weight

How to lose weight? Ask, answer, and then make a different choice.

 

Ready for one question that could help you learn how to lose weight?

 

There's one question you aren't asking yourself before you eat, that, if you ask it, could solve your weight issue immediately.

Ready for the question you need to be asking yourself?

The magic question is:  am I hungry?

Whut?

I know, right?

The average American woman is completely out of touch with her body and its signals.

We were raised to clean our plates and not to waste food – to get our money's worth.

But what about if instead of worrying about getting our money's worth and the state of our membership in the clean plate club we were to pay attention to our body's signals more?

Am I hungry?  If not, why am I eating this?

You might be eating for pleasure, which I get, but which may not be compatible with your goal of looking like someone who eats for fuel instead of for fun.

On a darker note, you may be eating to make yourself feel better.  Again, I get it, but if there is a problem in your life so serious you need to drug yourself with an outside substance in order to deal with it, it's time to change your life and/or your thinking about your life and/or how we deal with unpleasant feelings.

These are all things I could help you with as your coach. 

Let's get started today.

Ready to learn how to lose weight?  Email me at lisa@lisaduke.net and we'll jump on a Zoom call and chat.

 

Maybe You Can’t Lose Weight.

Maybe You Can’t Lose Weight.

There's a skinny future version of you.  Do you know how to get to her?

 

I sometimes talk to people who secretly believe “I can't lose weight”.  They are convinced there's something wrong with them. And they are absolutely right.

 

This version of you probably can't lose weight.

This version of you has been gaining a little bit of weight tiny amount by tiny amount for years.

Without a major interruption to the pattern – without a shift to the status quo – this version of you likely will continue doing what you have always done, and therefore will continue getting what you are getting now.

BUT.

While this future version of you (that's just a rinse and repeat version of present you) is the most likely future version of you, it's not the only possible future version of you.

Imagine all these future versions of you in front of you like outfits in your closet.

Quantum possibilities.  They all exist as potentials until we choose.

Which one are you going to step into?

You can absolutely remake yourself on your own for free.  People do it all the time.

But I will tell you as someone who has reinvented herself a few times – it's easier with a mentor.

 

New Version of Me = New Results for Me

We went from refinancing the house every few years to pay off the credit cards (and then running the credit cards back up) to a current net worth in the millions with a mentor.

I went from a bottle a night wine habit to not drinking at all (and not missing it) with the help of a role model.

I went from overeating (and not believing I was overeating) to eating in a way that fuels my body – and leaves me to deal with my mind and emotions using the non-food tools I now have – with a leader to follow.

You can do it on your own, but it's so much easier to make the choice to switch from your default future to your dream future with a mentor.  And a mindset coach who has done what you want to do makes an excellent mentor, due to not just her experience, but also her ability to show you your mind and where it's getting in the way.

 If you are tired of wasting time and ready for a change, let's work together and change the “I can't lose weight” belief into “I found a way to lose weight that works for me”.

Would you like to work together?  Contact me to schedule a free initial consultation to learn more.

 

 

Celebrating and Overeating?

Celebrating and Overeating?

Overeating is not a requirement of celebration.

 My client Lindsay had a common cultural association between overeating and celebrating.

 

This goes way back, to a time when food was scarce and being able to really eat with abandon would have been very rare.

This was also a time when gluttony was one of the Seven Deadly Sins, so even those few who could afford to overeat all the time had some social and religious pressure not to do so.

Now, if you truly celebrate a few times a year (say, even once a quarter or once a month), you can probably leave that cultural link in place.  It's so infrequent it may not be undermining your ability to lose weight.

 But after coaching with Lindsay for a few months, I noticed she celebrated A LOT.  Like, at least every 7-10 days.

Again, nothing wrong with that. Like Oprah says, live your best life.

But when you are overeating every 7-10 days because you are celebrating every 7-10 days and in your mind celebrating requires overindulging… well, that's going to interfere with your ability to lose weight.

 Once we noticed the pattern and brought it to the light, Lindsay was willing to let go of the story that celebration and overeating had to be linked.  And that's been a big part of her ability to stop overeating and start losing weight.

Are you ready to bring in an outside expert to get some perspective on how your brain and your habits are interfering with your ability to lose weight?   If so, contact me to learn more.

 

3 Surprises from Wearing a Continuous Glucose Monitor

3 Surprises from Wearing a Continuous Glucose Monitor

I thought I knew about managing blood sugar – until the Continuous Glucose Monitor (CGM) said otherwise.

 While I know my health won't be perfect forever, my goal is to take care of my body as well as I reasonably can so that I can have the least amount of physical suffering for the longest amount of time possible.

My approach to that goal incorporates the fact that I'm also a big believer in getting to the root cause of an issue, and in trying to get AHEAD of issues.

Western medicine is really good at addressing emergencies right after they occur.  If I get hit by a bus, yes please take me to a hospital.

But seeing them coming?  Preventative medicine?  Eh, not so much.  Besides looking at your bloodwork and urine occasionally, we tend to wait until after the issue to identify the issue.  More reactive than proactive.

With all this in mind (and because I have to go to the doctor every 90 days now that I'm lightly treating my ADHD), I recently asked the doctor about the possibility of getting a Continuous Glucose Monitor (CGM) to get a peek into what's going on with my blood sugar.

Because all the reasons above, plus money (AKA, insurance), she discouraged getting a prescription for one.  She did, however, mention that she had heard they now were available on Amazon without a prescription (!).

 So for $49, I figured, why not, and decided to do some primary research on myself.  🙂  Here's what I learned:

1.  You Can't Play A Player – But You May Be Playing Yourself

They say you can't play a player (which is a whole different blog post), but in this case, I was definitely playing myself.

Based on what I've learned – and what I teach – I knew full well something sweet on an empty stomach was a surefire way to spike my blood sugar. 

And, yet.. I definitely figured having a chai latte after skipping breakfast and going for a beach walk was totally fine.

And it was fine, in the sense that I didn't die or go to jail. LOL

But this choice was the only time that my blood sugar spiked out of the healthy zone on the high end the entire 14 days I was wearing the sensor.  🙁

I knew a sugary drink wasn't a great idea, but I figured in lieu of breakfast, and after a walk, and instead of a coffee latte, which might have been too much caffeine for me personally as I'd already had another coffee that morning – it's fine, right?!?

Eh, no, not so much.

While I felt ok, seeing my blood glucose had spiked into the unhealthy high zone was creepy.

 Part of the reason that this is such an important insight is that this is a routine we have almost every week, so it's not a one off – it's a repeating pattern.

Next time I may just have that second coffee and see how I feel.  Spiking my glucose like that was not how I wanted to end a “healthy” morning.   

2.  Getting Dysregulated Made Me More Dysregulatable – And For Quite Awhile

The second key insight was that spiking my blood sugar wasn't just a one off event – it seemed to make it easier for something small to cause a larger spike later that day – and to have lesser, but lingering, effects into the next day.

While I encourage clients who make an exception (planned or unplanned) to let it go and move on, the fact is that for my body a glucose spike was not a one and done.  It seemed to make my body more sensitive to lesser stimulus going forward.

So if after the chai tea (above) I'd had bread (say a sandwich) with lunch, or fruit (say and apple and nut butter) later in the day, by body had a much bigger reaction than on the days I'd had a sensible breakfast with good protein.

 I know when I get emotionally dysregulated (say a big argument) I tend to be more delicate afterwards – definitely the rest of that day, but maybe to a lesser degree the next day as well.  It seems like at least for me, that may be the case with my blood sugar as well. 

3. Hacks and Tricks Aren't Equal to Good Choices

The first day I had the CGM, my blood sugar was steady and low no matter what I ate – to the point that I wondered whether it was working.  So I decided to test it by intentionally eating processed food.

As much as possible, I try to avoid processed food products – even those marketed or designed to be healthy. 

I don't always follow this rule, because I also don't like cooking, so I have protein shakes and bars more often than I should.

I'm also lactose-intolerant, so I use pretend milk in place of regular moo-cow milk when milk is called for.

But with that exception, I generally try to eat food, not food products (hat tip: Michael Pollan).

So yes, that means avoiding obvious junk food (Cheetos and Snickers, for example).

It also means avoiding junk food's slick younger brother, processed food with healthy stuff added back in.  The nutrition facts look better, but processed food is processed food, and your body just doesn't run as well on food products as it does on actual food.

With that disclaimer out of the way, I intentionally decided to have some Raisin Bran Crunch to see if I could get a reaction from the CGM.

But I didn't want to entirely screw myself up, so I figured I'd add some plant-based “milk” and nut butter so there would be a bit of protein and fat to blunt the effects.

I can't tell you whether or not that helped, as I never tried it without the “milk” and nut butter.  But even with those tricks and hacks, the CGM still recorded a sizeable spike from the cereal – more than I'd anticipated when I designed the test.

This is a lot like point #1 – I was fooling myself by thinking this hack would mitigate the effect of the processed food!

Now, am I saying you can never have cereal or chai latte or whatever your heart desires?  No, of course not.  Do what you like.  But if you'd be intrigued by a reality check, the Lingo CGM might be of interest to you.  It was for me.

The monitor is off now, and I don't have plans to buy another at the moment.  For someone who is reasonably healthy and realistic, there may be no need.  But as an audit and reality check when I think I'm doing well?  Definitely worth the $49 occasionally in my opinion. 

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