Your brain wants to be efficient, and making a lot of changes takes effort and energy.  So it will fight you to go back to your old patterns of being as you try to change into someone who can succeed.

That feeling of discomfort is what we call the River of Misery.

Why is the analogy of a river so helpful?  

A river might be scary.  But we know it can be crossed.  We know the experience of being in the river is temporary.  The other shore is in sight.

When we step out into activities that are challenging and not part of our current behavior, we will feel discomfort.  But over time, that discomfort can become our new normal.  What was difficult, awkward, or scary can change into routine and easy over time.

Think about the last time you moved, or started a new relationship.  At first, it can be overwhelming.  There are too may unknowns!  But over time, we learn the ropes and no what to expect.  Life becomes more smooth again.

The most important things to know about the River of Misery is that what you are feeling is totally normal and natural.  You have to manage your mind during this time so you can keep going.  Over time you will fully become this new version of yourself.